Next morning: I gathered as much courage as I could to speak to the girl at the steam room, who I swam next to little earlier. I tried to be as comfortable as possible on the exterior, but was a little unsettled inside. I
1) start off with something in common (do you swim at UIC?). and get to know her on a casual level (what do you like to do, etc)
2) elaborate on what they say/ask follow up questions regarding it, rather than interrogating them with multiple questions.
Additionally, ask how they are, how they like it: ‘i came this semester for 2 year grad program’ (how do you like uic, united states, do you have family etc.)
3) add a little humor. ‘i speak at 10yo level’ (maybe 14)
4) try to be genuinely interested in them, talk about something you enjoy as well. -mazur
as i was walking out, i was feeling little nauseous from how nervous i was, hope with more experience, more comfortable i will become.